Home Sweet Home

Working in the Admissions and Needs Assessment department at CBR YouthConnect affords me the opportunity to meet many people at conferences and special presentations across the United States. Some of these people include: social workers, case managers, juvenile probation officers, parents, judges, special educators, and attorneys. As often as I travel away from my own home, I am struck by the attention that our referral sources and CBRYC staff give to making sure that each child or adolescent that ends up being placed with us has a meaningful as well as therapeutic experience. That led me to think about the degree of emphasis that we place on making sure “our boys” feel as much at home during their stay at CBRYC as they would in their own homes.

Henry Van Dyke wrote a poem called “A Home Song” that summarizes well how we try to make CBRYC feel like “home” for our clients:

A Home Song
“I read within a poet’s book
A word that starred the page:
“Stone walls do not a prison make,
Nor iron bars a cage!”

Yes, that is true; and something more
You’ll find, where’er you roam,
That marble floors and gilded walls
Can never make a home.

But every house where Love abides,
And Friendship is a guest,
Is surely home, and home-sweet-home:
For there the heart can rest.”

– Henry Van Dyke

You see, I really do believe that “home is where the heart is,” and for most of the boys who end up at CBR YouthConnect, “home” has often been associated with trauma and neglect, or maybe it has never existed before in their lives. As boys arrive at CBRYC, they quickly learn that we are neither stone walls nor marble floors. We create home through our relationships with each person who steps onto our 320 acres. We build trust through everyday conversation with the boys, through helping them learn to solve problems effectively, managing their emotions appropriately, and thinking critically. Our boys learn that they are much more than clients; they are human beings worthy of dignity and respect. In the course of their time with us, they start to feel at “home.” Now, home may be defined differently by each boy who stays at CBRYC, but the common denominator for each of those boys is connection: connection to the staff, connection to the other boys, and connection to their inner strengths.

Even when our boys leave CBR YouthConnect, they know that they have someplace they can truly call “home,” where they are respected, where they always have someone who will listen to them. As Henry Van Dyke wrote, “But every house where Love abides, And Friendship is a guest, Is surely home, and home-sweet-home: For there the heart can rest.” I like to think that CBRYC is that place where love and friendship can be found for each boy, regardless of his past impressions of home.

SUBMITTED BY: NATALIE VAN NOTE

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